Do you ever get that nagging feeling that something is missing? Or the little green monster pops up unexpectedly at the worst times and reminds you of all that you're missing? He compares your meager and measly life to the thriving ones of your friends and family, convincing you that you're never going to achieve your dreams and that life is just a drag - well, a drag for you anyways.
Believe you me, I'm well aware of how quickly and deeply that little voice pierces your soul. And you catch yourself focusing on all the things you don't have yet and may never have rather than on all the blessings in your life. There's a saying: "Bloom where you're planted." And honestly, that's the answer to your jealousy and sorrow. For better or worse, God has placed you where you are right now for a reason - maybe to test you; maybe to prepare you for trials ahead; maybe to give you blessings you don't even realize. And that little monster talking about YOUR dreams and YOUR wishes? He's trying to turn your attention away from God's plan for your life and make you focus solely on your own idea of what should be happening. And then making you feel like crap when that isn't the reality.
Of course, blooming where you're planted doesn't mean you shouldn't be working towards those dreams as long as you aren't trying to go against God's plan. And knowing what that plan is . . . well, that's a tricky business. But if you pay attention, He'll show you. Blooming where you're planted often means making the best of the situation you're in . . . focusing on the positive and learning the lessons you need to learn. And oftentimes, being stuck in a situation far from your ultimate dream can help you discern what that dream really should be.
Your life isn't going to change with a snap of your fingers. You have to make it change. And if you keep trying and trying and hitting roadblock after roadblock, then either you're not trying hard enough or God is perhaps giving you a sign that you should try a different path. Or maybe the devil is working against you. Regardless, with discernment and reliance on God, you can figure out your path in life (at least for a few years down the road) and can then set about adjusting your present to prepare for the future you want. If you want something, you're going to have to work for it. The hard part is figuring out how.